How is a Wedding Like a Black Walnut Tree?
The Black Walnut tree…according to The Old Farmer’s Almanac, it is a tree of rich, brown heart wood that early settlers discovered was exceptionally resistant to decay. The roots of the tree often extend as far as fifty feet – in dual purpose – stability and protection, exuding a natural herbicide that safeguards the Black Walnut from herbaceous competitors. Its straight and tall characteristics made it a natural choice for lasting building projects like fences, trim boards, and windowsills. Later, the Almanac explains, the “close grained wood of the black walnut has long been prized by furniture and cabinet makers for its attractive color and exceptional durability.” What a legacy for a tree…and what a symbol to commemorate the beginning of the Kaufmann marital union. With his loving hands, Hillary’s Grandfather, David, made rustic slabs of Black Walnut that Christopher and Hillary used as centerpieces at their wedding reception – so he could be with them in spirit. After promising themselves, one to another on the beach on that beautiful October 2nd afternoon, one can only imagine the impact of seeing that Black Walnut – the strong, enduring, beautiful history – symbolizing family and bonds of matrimony into which they had just entered. They were at the beginning of their journey – following in the legacy of both sets of parents. Hillary’s parents, Todd and Bridget are celebrating 31 years of marriage this year. Christopher’s parents, Jamie and Brenda, are celebrating their 33rd wedding anniversary in November. What a foundation for Christopher and Hillary…much like those Black Walnut roots – extending out from the center of the tree in protection and stability.
While heart wood was a reminder of strength on the Kaufmann’s wedding day, there were other details filled with meaning. Though they were unable to be with her physically, her Grandmother and Great-Grandmother were proudly looking down, I am certain, at their beautiful Hillary, who lovingly included them in her wedding day. Like a gentle embrace around her neck, Hillary wore the pearls left to her by her Great-Grandmother, Shirley. Hillary shared with me that Mrs. Shirley wore the pearls and the earrings every day, and she was so careful with them because they meant so much to the Great-Grandmother that was so special to her. Pearls…long known for being symbols for wisdom. Again, it was so appropriate that a beloved Great-Grandmother, a vessel of wisdom, had been a part of the day through her special pearls. Another special detail was entwined around the floral stems of Hillary’s bridal bouquet, lovingly crafted by her Aunt Laurie. Her Grandmother Lorraine’s rosary, which she had proudly shared had been blessed by the Pope, was touching Hillary’s hands as she walked down to meet her groom. It was almost as if her Grandmother Lorraine was gently holding her hand as her dad, Todd, walked Hillary down the aisle. It was, again, a fitting symbol of family faith as the basis upon which their union is built.
There were special moments before and after the ceremony that were legacy moments…those that clearly illustrate the love these families have known and that demonstrate the foundation upon which a loving home was formed this day. As Christopher placed the corsage on his mother’s wrist and kissed the top of her head, the special bond between mother and son needed no words. Bridget, Hillary’s mother, lovingly laced the back of her wedding dress, and for just a moment, one could see her imagining dressing her baby girl, one last time. The emotional “first look” for father and daughter was so poignant for both Hillary and Todd, as tears flowed for both of them. That moment was as emotional as the “daddy/daughter” dance to “I Loved Her First”, when my own tears flowed and made it hard to capture the moment. It was so precious. However, one of the most meaningful was one that was very traditional – as Christopher and Hillary elected not to see one another before the ceremony. They did, however, want to share a private moment to exchange thoughts, promises, and gifts with one another – to start their lives together in love. I am so thankful I was there to capture those moments for them.
This wedding was not the original wedding Christopher and Hillary had envisioned. 2020, the year of challenges, altered their plans for a traditional church wedding. However, I believe this wedding on the beach was as it was supposed to be – like the Black Walnut tree – rooted in simple elegance and strength of legacy. Most of all, it was rooted in love and in faith. Congratulations to Christopher and Hillary Kaufmann. May God richly bless your union. Thank you for trusting me to capture your precious moments.
Blessings ~
Lisa